Sunday, November 5, 2017

Dog eat Dog Teachers


It’s been two months at Rolling Hills Middle School, and already I’m in sadly familiar territory. It’s all about resources really. You know - too many people and not enough supplies. Let me explain.


The school is bursting at the seams. Rooms, chairs, space as well as time are scarce. I used to think teachers in general were mean and controlling. Actually, I still do, but now I understand why. By the way, I, too, am a teacher.

The scarcity of resources in the teaching profession creates a dog eat dog situation. For instance, one student may have to meet with several specialists in a week. Whoever gets there first snatches the student and lays claim to that time slot. In addition, new teachers are prime targets for being taken advantage of. They are given the scraps, and left to fend for themselves with the fewest resources. Supplies, desks, computers and scheduling needs are devoured before the newbie knew what hit them. Rather than negotiating the fairness of divvying up the bounty, it is consumed in a cruel and righteous gulp.

It’s criminal we have teachers who work with our children reduced to behaving like starving animals defending their place on the food chain. The obvious solution would be to provide the right amount of resources. I’m talking about providing tools for us to simply perform our job successfully and humanely. That gesture alone would go a long way in promoting civility among educators. Still, public educators remain at the bottom of the career food chain with regards to proper resources (and may I add, pay and respect).

Of course, as in any profession, there will always be sharks and guppies. However, the remainder of us civilized teachers will transcend survival mode and perform our duties without turning into hungry animals if provided with what we need. It really is that simple.

Sunday, June 4, 2017

Snap Out of It!



    When my mind starts churning over the same repetitive and habitual fearful, sad, limiting or angry thoughts, I lift my hand in the air and snap. I literally snap myself out of a thought process that has worn a habitual groove into the byways of my mind that is neither beneficial or even realistic.

    But often before clicking my fingers together, I state aloud the reality I am replacing the negative thinking pattern with. For example, I sometimes get trapped into imagining an impoverished future of loneliness. The moment I catch myself descending into that abyss, I state aloud my future is filled with kind and interesting people who enjoy my companyThen I snap a decisive snap. One snap on that particular thought abyss usually does the trick - but, in the case of more deeply held negative beliefs and stubborn patterns, relinquishing those thoughtscapes may necessitate a second or even third snap. I find I have to revisit a single thought groove at least a hundred times before noticing a lasting shift, but it's worth the time investment.

    Changing thoughts such as I'm unlovable or I don't deserve happiness to I totally rock and enjoy being alive, interrupt the habitual thought groove while the snap returns me to the here and now away from the there and then that doesn't exist. It never did. I inherited that hopeless, helpless mindset from a lineage of scared, hurt and wounded people. Snapping is just one tool in my toolchest of life hacks I employ to address, identify and reverse habitual thinking. 

So, when you find your thoughts dwelling in old, familiar patterns confidently and lovingly....

Snap out of it!



*Disclaimer: For depression and more serious thoughts of self-harm, please seek counseling. Snapping is more to break a pattern and doesn't address deeper emotional or psychological challenges or trauma.*