When you get to be my age, if you find yourself sitting across from a man in reasonably good shape with more than half his hair, you feel you struck gold. What am I talking about? - Dating! Does dating take bravery? You bet!
Is it about outer gorgeousness? Well no, BUT recently I found myself forcing an attraction for a man who bore more than a passing resemblance to the Addams Family's Uncle Fester. There has to be some form of attraction to create sustained interest while you get to know the inner beauty, right?
He was intelligent and took a sincere interest in me. Still, it was difficult for me to see beyond his teenage-like lifestyle which spilled over into unrealistic expectations. I guess he was looking for the fairest maiden in the land who would love him unconditionally, take care of him and not be concerned with his non-existent employment status and other notable challenges.
He had somewhat of an adolescent charm, and I am seeking someone with the qualities of fun, spontaneity and open-mindedness that he possessed, but in the context of a grown-up – at least mostly grown-up - more than some of the time.
As you can probably guess, it didn't work out. I am grateful he showed his true colors before we both wasted much more time trying to mold the possible from the impossible.
Get Out There
I want to tip my hat to this man, though, and to all of you who muster the courage to get out there and try. I am also out there facing the potential thought bubble of I wish I was anywhere but here.
My recent dating experience reminded me to stay focused on the qualities I am searching for in a relationship partner.
I have spent far too much time forcing the impossible. I have decided to focus that energy on real potential. So, if you're out there....