Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Ordinary Bravery: Day 6 - Dating


When you get to be my age, if you find yourself sitting across from a man in reasonably good shape with more than half his hair, you feel you struck gold. What am I talking about? - Dating! Does dating take bravery? You bet!

Is it about outer gorgeousness? Well no, BUT recently I found myself forcing an attraction for a man who bore more than a passing resemblance to the Addams Family's Uncle Fester.  There has to be some form of attraction to create sustained interest while you get to know the inner beauty, right?

He was intelligent and took a sincere interest in me. Still, it was difficult for me to see beyond his teenage-like lifestyle which spilled over into unrealistic expectations. I guess he was looking for the fairest maiden in the land who would love him unconditionally, take care of him and not be concerned with his non-existent employment status and other notable challenges. 

He had somewhat of an adolescent charm, and I am seeking someone with the qualities of fun, spontaneity and open-mindedness that he possessed, but in the context of a grown-up – at least mostly grown-up -  more than some of the time.

As you can probably guess, it didn't work out. I am grateful he showed his true colors before we both wasted much more time trying to mold the possible from the impossible.

Get Out There 

I want to tip my hat to this man, though, and to all of you who muster the courage to get out there and try. I am also out there facing the potential thought bubble of I wish I was anywhere but here.

My recent dating experience reminded me to stay focused on the qualities I am searching for in a relationship partner. 

I have spent far too much time forcing the impossible. I have decided to focus that energy on real potential. So, if you're out there....

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Saturday, May 9, 2015

A New Year

Living Fully

It is time to take on the challenge of living fully. The quote leading this post sums it up best, "Don't live the same year over for 75 years and call it a life."

A lot of people have resonated to this message. In essence, your life is meant to be lived. Living, I mean truly living, entails risk, the willingness and strength to change, the ability to flow and let go.

Living life fully has to have a different map for each of us. One-of-a-kind goals and life circumstances prevents a one-size-fits-all set of steps. I believe, though, there are guideposts and universal truths which can assist us as we map out our own course. For many, that idea implies struggle, but it can also be viewed as part of the adventure of a fully engaged life.

Life Map

A map would have been a great help for me as I went in directions that fulfilled other's expectations and those of society, as I perceived them, rather than my own. It took me years to understand that my road can't look like anyone else's for this simple reason: I am not them.

I have been and remain a seeker, but I now add finder to the list of descriptors. By way of a map, I follow the teachings of those who have attained what I aspire to, and I follow the knowing inside me that says "This is right". "This is right" is a different experience than "This is comfortable". It has taken me years to know the difference.

There IS a difference. "This is right" can feel like many things including "This is damn scary" and even, "This is crazy". It can feel like stepping out into the void and into a free fall where you’re not certain when, if or how you're going to land. You will land as have all the people who have taken the same leap before you, and so will I. You just won't be able to predict when and where.

The simple truth is our time on this walkabout called life floats by on a breeze and is gone. One day has the potential of blending into the next. One year can bleed into another without differentiation. Then it’s over before most had a chance to get going. Personally, I intend to make my time count, and give it my best: Love, share, take risks, smell the roses, create meaning and live.

Today is the start of a new year. What do plan to do with it?

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