The rate of change these days is dizzying.
I don’t know about you, but I find I need to pause
more often to retreat, heal and gather my thoughts
and strength.
What’s going on?
Well, what’s not going on? It appears all aspects of the world I once knew are in flux.
Emotions are high. The themes of tribalism, hate and intolerance are regularly spewing
and reverberating through the numerous biways of news and social media. The climate
is becoming increasingly more unpredictable and extreme, and critical social institutions
are in crisis. It’s a lot, and it’s exhausting. Some people are coping by reverting to the
past, blaming, lashing out, or trying to exert control as a way to prevent or perhaps
master the inevitable momentum of change; but one thing I know for certain is no one
can stop the momentum anymore than they can stop the tide from coming in.
Striving for Balance
I have been struggling to stay balanced these days, and I don't think I'm alone. I think
we are all sensing a wild ride is yet ahead with much work to be done to address and
affect positive change. We also know these times require us to be strong and our best
versions of ourselves, and that’s not easy to maintain. Part of the problem is we’ve
entered these unprecedented times already overtaxed. The majority of us not in the
top 1% have been working demanding hours, or more than one job, often without
vacations to simply stay afloat. These unprecedented times have amplified and laid
bare this and other toxic challenges affecting us. I’m hopeful this will result in needed
systemic changes, but this will not happen overnight. In the interim, we need to
remember to take care of ourselves, our health and our well-being in the midst of
today's turmoil.
Here are some tips I'm trying to implement in my own life that might be helpful for anyone
else struggling to maintain balance in these troubled times.
1. Focus on your health
Stress robs us of our health and well being. In these unprecedented times we need to
pay special attention to the basics:
a. Healthy food: Avoid overly heavy foods, and include lots of fruit and vegetables
of different colors and textures including leafy greens.
b. Hydration: At a minimum, drink 4 glasses (or more) of water and other fluids that
don't contain caffeine or alcohol daily. Caffeine and alcohol are dehydrating - and if
you're like me, they will also interfere with your sleep. I'm not saying don't drink coffee
or alcohol, just know they don't support hydration.
c. Sufficient rest: Sleep needs vary from person to person, but 6 - 9 hours per night
applies to most people. Get the range of sleep that allows you to function well
and provides you with sufficient energy to function optimally throughout the day.
d. Excercise 2 - 3 times a week:You don't have to go crazy unless that suites you.
Two good exercises that help me with
stress are brisk walking and yoga, but anything that gets you moving for at least
20 minutes is good. I prefer something fun like dancing or hiking. Exercise is one of the
best natural anti-depressants around and has the ability to reduce symptoms of stress
and fatigue.
2. Find your tribe
Find and include people and places where you feel you can be you, where you can be
uplifted, where you can refill your reservoir and help others refill theirs. This can be
anything such as a volunteer community, a dance or martial arts class, a language
practice group - anything really - Anything that replenishes your spirit and brings
some joy and meaning to your life.
3. Disconnect
Disengage from social media, news and gloom and doom friends. A steady stream of
negativity colors your outlook for the worse. By disconnecting, you live more in the
now and free from overly negative influences. You can more easily choose which
emotions to foster and experience that aren't consistently rooted in fear.
4. Spread more kindness
You can never go wrong adding more kindness to a world experiencing a deficit. I
firmly believe a critical component of healing a battered world involves more kindness
and more compassion. The harder, bullying tactics we've been witnessing of late
trigger fight or flight impulses. Being primitive survival responses, they eclipse
other more thoughtful and respectful responses. Kindness and compassion transcend
primitive reactivity and, well, make the world a better place.
5. Reorganize priorities
You will need take more breaks. Ours is a wonderful, but currently frightened and
troubled world in the midst of great changes. It will be necessary to retreat and gather
your strength and regain your perspective. If you've been putting in 50 hour work
weeks, maybe it's time to consider cutting back to 45 hours if you can. Trading time
for money in these times could add immeasurable benefit to your well being. I also
recommend prioritizing spending additional time with who and what you love most.
You will need to replenish yourself before going out and aiding a world also in need
of healing.
When we shift to a healthier mindset with priorities more reflective of who we are, it's
my belief that we start affecting change on a larger scale.
The greater the numbers of us
engaging in healthier practices - the greater the promise of a
healthier world.